Saturday, July 12, 2025

Womens life story

  Urmila, who was in her thirties, suddenly decided that she could no longer support her son, daughter-in-law, and husband who were abroad and that she wanted to live on her own. She wanted unconditional freedom from all relationships, but her husband did not agree to live separately.

Her husband said that when the children grew up, the family became mature, and now it was time for the two of them to live together. However, Urmila remained steadfast in her decision to live her own way.

Everyone in the village knows about Urmila and Rajan. They are known as an example of a happy couple in society. Thirty-four years of successful married life, two brothers and a son are all out, but today Urmila is asking the court to rule in her favor by saying that she wants to live separately from her husband.

The judge's question: "Is your husband involved in any other place, or with any other woman?"

Urmila replied with a smile: "There is no one in his life except me." I am his "favorite and first wife."

"So, does he torture you? Does he have a habit of beating you up by intoxicating you?"

"In the past, he used to stop raising his hand and insulting you. But still, sometimes he insults me - in response, I also insult him back. Because I am also a working woman, I earn enough with my earnings, I don't need to stretch my hands." Urmila said.

Judge: "The relationship is fine, why did you decide to separate?"

Now, after hearing what I said above, our relationship may seem fine, Judge. But my thirty-four years of fatigue, the daily grind, that terrible night when I had to sleep crying with my children every night. No one knows these things. In the eyes of society and my family, my husband is a good man, a good father, a good boss. But he could never be a good lover for his wife.

We got married at a young age after falling in love or flirting for a few days. I thought our life would be spent in love like this, but after going with him, that love and affection disappeared.

My wife was only cooking, taking on the burden of work, and enduring the insults of my mother-in-law in my life. Even then, I earned a little, but in the hope of getting love back, I took on the responsibility of the family. But nothing like that happened, then I made a name for myself by doing public service, and he also got a job.

After some time, I had a child, some changes occurred in my body, sleepiness in my eyes, fatigue in my body, after having a child, I realized that I was not in his heart.

My office colleagues were very important to him. I was just a family member, not the girlfriend he brought with love.

I have said it not once, but many times, to move forward by loving each other like before, I want to be your girlfriend again, but he never listened. I still hoped, because I did not want to let my sons be deprived of their father's love. But my husband? He never wanted to understand my wishes.

He praised my 'tolerance' to his office and social friends and gave me the title of 'best wife'. But he never gave me love.

I could not become his close friend even once, he never asked 'how are you?'.

He tastes the taste of life himself, hanging out with his colleagues, chatting in the kitchen every evening, but did he give me time? Did he take me for a walk?

It has been thirty-four years since we got married, thirty-one years I have fulfilled my mother's duty, I have ended my life in his name. What have I got in return - except emptiness and loneliness.

But now I do not want to live as a 'housewife' in his house. I want to live as an independent person. I want time to watch the rising sun in the morning, I want time to write my feelings on the pages of my diary at night. I do not want to cook food for him in the morning, wash his clothes and wash the dishes. I do not want to live where feelings do not match, now I want a little happiness in my own way. I want some peace where I don't have to explain to anyone. I want a little love for myself...

Have I asked for anything more than this?

I have given up the life I was born as a woman, now that young age of 16-17 will never come back. I want to travel this world, I want to enjoy myself not under anyone's pressure but by my own desires..

Therefore, I want to make myself free. The measure of a relationship is not by taking any responsibility, but by finding a new love for life.

After listening to Urmila's words, the entire court was shocked, after hearing such honest and deep things, there was nothing to say to anyone. Suddenly, tears welled up in the judge's eyes..


Every relationship in life without love is broken inside, even if you live in your husband's house, you remain only a responsibility. And when the responsibility is not satisfied, the soul cries and even at the age of fifty-five, sixty, people want to get rid of their partner.

Friday, September 6, 2024

Festival in teej


 The festival of Teej starts one and a half months ago, but the way it is observed has started to take a different form in the present time. It is said that the practice of fasting on Teej started with the belief that Parvati fulfilled her wish by fasting for Mahadev in mythological times. Teej festival is divided into three parts. Hariyali Teej falls on the third day of Poonrama in the month of Shravana. On the same day, Parbati's desire to marry Shivaji was revealed. This festival, mentioned in the legend, is celebrated with the development of human civilization after the end of the planting time of agriculture.In addition to protecting one's body by wearing mehendi, there was a tradition of eating nutritious food. It started to be taken as a short Teej. At this time, it is believed that the name Hariyali Teej festival is also given because the greenery everywhere creates happiness, joy and happiness in the mind. Kajari Teej is celebrated 15 days after that. On this day, married women go to their parents' house and prepare Bhulla and sing Teej song with bhajans with joy. All the women gather in one place and sing and dance. Krishna's arrival is greeted with grandeur by all the families sitting together. There is a tradition of eating tar on the day before Krishna Janmashti.It is tradition to celebrate Haritalika as Teej after 15 days.

There is a mythological story that on this day Parvati's father raised suspicions that Parvati would marry her to Vishnu. As Parvati was abducted by her friends and taken to the forest, Harat-Alika-Hartalika, Harit (Apahaht)-Alika-Haritalika are popular in both names.

Every year on the day of Bhadra Shukla Tritiya, the tradition of observing Nirhar fast on Teej dates back to ancient timesThe tradition that has existed since the Puranic period is clear. After Parvati underwent austerity, there is a legend that there must have been a tradition of fasting on the day of Teej due to the fact that she did penance alone without even drinking water. Also, since this day is considered as the day of Lord Krishna's death, it has become a tradition to celebrate it with special joy.

The tradition of eating sweet and delicious food on the day before Teej has been around since then. The tradition of eating sweet food until the chicken crows in the morning so that the stomach is firm on the day of fasting.The tradition of eating delicious food has been there since then. Our forefathers had established the custom of eating tar until the chickens hatched in the morning so that the stomach would be firm on the day of fasting. It is customary to fast and pray for good health and longevity of the family. It is customary to fast on the day before Teej by eating pure vegetarian food. Parvati fasted and did penance and her wish was fulfilled. Therefore, it is believed that unmarried girls will get a husband of their choice if they fast on this day. Since it is the time when the bridegroom who is given in marriage is at the peak of her marriage, she stays in the marriage on that day for the long life of her husband.It is believed that there is a tradition of wishing.

Our culture full of faith and belief has been going on since tradition. A woman questioned me and asked, 'If the husband's life would be prolonged by fasting, no man would die.' In the current environment, such an argument is natural. Will fasting on Teej really prolong the life of the husband? What is seen in practical knowledge rather than in theoretical knowledge? Studying it from different angles, the mother-in-law gives sweet dishes to the daughter-in-law and because she is not satisfied with too much food, fasting also makes the stomach empty and our body keeps make healthly.It is seen in the practical knowledge that helps people to be healthy.

By worshiping Gods and Goddesses with faith and faith in the mind, positive energy is generated in the body when fasting in this way. Fasting is a means of concentration. It is not necessary for working patients, sick and disabled. Instead of fasting outwardly, do what you can. Keep the mind at peace, do what the soul tells you to do. If we can, it is the greatest religion to give up pride, the tendency to hurt others, pride, misbehavior, harm, recklessness, and selfishness. 

We will get fruits according to our actions. Our traditions and culture are celebrated with faith in some deity. As a result, you get positive energy and confidence in yourself. With the development of human civilization, we can study the fact that belief in people gives positive energy, which has been accepted since ancient times. Teej festival is celebrated in all communities according to their own culture and civilization. Happy Teej to all.

Friday, January 26, 2018

Thursday, January 25, 2018

SHANTI DEEP

 one of the most interesting deep in lumbine.

WHITE TEMPLE

This is arranged in the northern piece of the Lumbine village.It is additionally calling world peace pagoda . Nipponzan Myohji, a Japanese Boddhist organationation and the Lumbine Develpoment Trust on 6, August 1993 consented to an arrangement for a plot of land estimating 220m x 220m toward the north of the water tower in the New Lumbine town .The pagoda is near the lumbine crane haven . This great pagoda 41.5m. tall and 59 m in width. In a standout amongst the most attractive fantastic structure in Lumbine . The taking off structure was outlined by Dr. minaru Okaka. The four brilliant plate bronze picture of the Buddha delineating the birth, illumination, frist sermon and mahaparinirvan of Lord Buddha are sets into the Stupa's Dome and face the four cardinal bearings. The Golden hued zenith adds to the mirth of the stupa. 

Nichiren Buddhism Founder by Nichiren Daishonin, as Japanese Buddhism in which of the mantra namu myoho regne kyo is discussed repetitivelyfor great wellbeing, satisfaction and enlightment. Nichiren Buddhists belive that it is conceivable to accomplish edification in a solitary life time through legitimate practice on the Nichiren way . This type of Buddhisim is partitioned into a few requests Today .Rev. sato Tasuma, the main abbot of the monastery arranges peace walks in various piece of Nepal and a few times in various nations.




Wednesday, January 24, 2018